Feelings and emotions are parts of ourselves that makes us human.


You may cringe when someone asks you, “How do you feel?” Sometimes you know and sometimes you don’t. And you may have more than one feeling at a time.

Feelings are triggered by every day events like winning a football game or getting a “C” on a test. As a military youth, your triggers might also include saying goodbye, to a parent who is going on a deployment, or to a friend when you move.

Remember that just because you have feelings, doesn’t mean you have a mental illness like depression or anxiety. However, research suggests that the distress from having a deployed parent may lead to depression and anxiety. The good news is that you can ask for help.


Emotions 101

  1. Feelings are not positive or negative, good or bad, right or wrong. Judging emotions may lead you to suppress your feelings. If sad is “bad,” you may try to stop feeling sad or try to be happy when you are not. A better way to think of emotions could be comfortable or uncomfortable, enjoyable or difficult.
  2. You are not your emotions. If you experience the same emotion a lot, you may start to believe it is part of your identity. But, emotions are not entirely who you are. You may say, “I am depressed,” when in truth, you feel depressed. 
  3. You cannot get rid of feelings. Everyone has feelings. They are your honest reaction to what is happening around you. If you try to ignore them or stuff them inside, you may make yourself more uncomfortable and it may take longer to resolve them.
  4. Emotions do not last forever. It is not possible to feel the same emotion all the time. Feelings come and go as your life changes.
  5. Your emotions are unique to you. Though people are capable of the same emotions, how you feel in a given situation is different from how someone else feels.
Revised: Mon, 11/18/2019 - 05:56


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