When family members don't listen to each other, problems can arise. Carlos wants Anna at his game— after all, family is important. When he confronts her, she becomes defensive. Next thing you know, Mom and Anna are fighting. Not only is no one listening, but nothing gets resolved either.
- Can you think of a time when you were so eager to tell your side of the story that you weren't listening to anyone else? Did things get resolved?
- Next Steps:
Once things cool down, Carlos can make time to talk to his mom and Anna. He can propose a family "pow-wow" to discuss their problems. When you call for a family discussion, arrange a time when everyone can attend and make sure that there are no distractions. Allow each family member to share their thoughts and feelings. Take time to really listen to each person's ideas before proposing any solutions. You may want to keep track of the comments and feelings on chart paper so that it's clear that all family members' experiences and perceptions are heard. Once a decision is reached, talk through exactly how things will be handled.