You may admire different qualities or values your parent had and strive to be like him or her. He may have valued an education and encouraged you to do your best in school. He may have enjoyed a particular sport and you may think it would be good to play that sport. You may also feel the same commitment to serve your country in the military. Finding comfort in being like your late dad or mom is okay as long as it is something that helps you and doesn't burden you.